Bringing Out Their Best

One of the biggest struggles for teenagers is learning to be themselves and finding their own way. Use these practices from Wayne Rice’s Cleared For Takeoff Word Publishing) to help teenagers discover not only what they’re good at, but what brings them the most joy.

1. Affirm uniqueness. One of parents’ most important jobs is helping teenagers to discover what they do best. Recognize that each young person is unique-and remember that asking an introvert to be an extrovert is like asking a left-handed person to write right-handed.
2. Avoid comparisons. It’s easy to compare teenagers to others who are smarter, less clumsy, or more spiritual. Even if nothing’s said, kids pick up signals of disappointment or disapproval. Learn to love teenagers for who they are right now.
3. Put their interests before your own. Let go of the urge to have perfect teenagers. Don’t try to live your life through them.
4. Expose them to possibilities for passion. Don’t overprotect teenagers to the point that they miss out on chances to try new things. Help them be open to opportunities that might ignite their passions.
5. Nudge a little. When teenagers do something well, encourage them to see how those skills can lead to lifelong interests or vocations.